How to Get Someone Back When All Seems Lost
At the moment you are probably suffering from a bruised, or perhaps devastated self image, a huge feeling of loss and emptiness, and that terrible emptiness in the pit of your stomach. How am I going to rebuild my life? How did it come to this? Where did I go wrong? Why do I still love them? Have I made a big mistake? These are all questions that some or all of which may be running through your mind right now. Even if your other half dumped you, it's not necessarily over, no matter how bad things might seem. "It's over" you say, "we've said some terrible things to each other, and there's no going back". Well, let me tell you, if you're prepared to take some action, and (although this is hard), refuse to see yourself as the victim in this, then this is the first part of discovering how to get someone back. You see, you have to look after yourself first. It's absolutely vital that you give yourself some "me time". Put yourself first for once. No doubt there's a ton of stuff you want to say to your other half – but don't. No matter how much you want to tell them that you still love them and want them back, or perhaps you want to do the opposite and get mad at them – where's that going to lead? Is trying to win the sympathy vote, or getting mad actually going to achieve anything other than further alienation from your ex? On the one hand you come across as a rather sad and pathetic individual, and on the other, a rather unpleasant person. Neither approach will get someone back in your life, even though they seem as perfectly normal reactions. No, those approaches will simply make things worse, and you'll end up regretting you tried them. There's no easy way, you have to do the opposite to what you feel and just have nothing to do with them at all. I know what you're thinking – "everyone says that"! Well, that's because it's true. Let me tell you what happened to me, and how this works in practice. Some 4 years ago, I met someone who I thought was wonderful and fell in love with. For the record, we were both single at the time. She (yes, I'm a male, but the principle works the same for both men and women) and I shared the same interests and we just "clicked". However, after about 14 months we had what turned out to be a misunderstanding – it doesn't matter what it was, but to cut a long story short, she dumped me. I was devastated, just as you probably feel now. I even made the mistake of sending her flowers – she went ballistic! I decided to try out this "no contact" thing. Instead I decided not to sit and stare at the walls, but to "get out there" and spend some time on me. I contacted old friends, some of whom I hadn't seen for years and a whole new life opened up. "Great – how does that help me?" I hear you ask. Well, and stay with me on this, if you make the effort and make a decision to really start living your life to the full, no matter what people think, you start to feel better about yourself. You find that people do, in fact, like you. That there is life out there and you're not (if you're like I was at 45 years old), past it. When your self esteem increases, so does your confidence. You appear as in control to others, and a fun and likeable person. "Ok, but so what?" you ask. Well, as my confidence returned, I found myself enjoying life again, my head was together and to others at least, I was back in control. Now here's the crunch: After about 2 months, I was holidaying alone in Egypt. One night I was in my room just going to bed, when the phone rang. It was Alice! (name changed). She just wanted to know how I was and we had a very pleasant, light talk. I explained I was away, but the call ended with us agreeing to contact each other when I was home, which I duly did. We subsequently met up again, and are now a permanent item! The point of this story is, by not contacting each other we both had time to think, and think clearly as time apart passed. Alice, as she told me, had decided that "everyone deserves a second chance." Had I begged her to come back, or got mad with her in the earlier heat of the moment, I would simply have pushed her further away, as she would have me if she had acted that way too. So spending time completely apart and looking after yourself is the first step to get someone back, do it, it works. However, there is much more to it than that, as I said, this is only the first step. So how do you avoid blowing it all when you do meet up again? In fact, where can you go for proven and guaranteed guidance on getting somoen back?
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