Have you ever been involved in a relationship that seems to bring
out theworst, instead of the best, in you? A relationship such as that
can be classified as a toxic relationship or one that seems to do more harm than good, more trouble and misery
than happy moments. Toxic relationships are more common than many people think. Some people in them are often
in denial. However, it is possible to do something about toxic relationships and this article will attempt to
give some detail.
The first thing that people must do in dealing with a toxic relationship is to be
able to identify and accept the fact that they are already involved in a relationship that is potentially
destructive. So, how can you tell? Well, the most obvious sign of a toxic relationship is whether or not it brings
out the best in you and / or your partner. Do you feel negative in your partner's company - not just a little fed
up - we all get like that sometimes, and can talk to our partner about it, but negative in the sense of feeling
irritated or angry, lazy or uninspired.
If you notice some of these negative changes in yourself, then you must acknowledge the possibility that it is
the relationship you are in that may be the cause. Acknowledging the possibility of a toxic relationship is the
first and very important step in dealing with negative relationships The reason why some people continue to be in
bad relationships for years is because they are in denial, or even in a comfort zone (see comfort zone definition in our article "Ways To Stop Your Divorce")
Even though that they are aware that their relationships is not doing them any good for one reason or another but
they turn a blind eye hoping that things will change for the better in the near future. Unless you do something
about them, toxic relationships did not change by themselves. Action must be taken by the individuals
concerned to repair the relationship.
Couples in toxic relationships must try to determine the root of the problem. More often than not, problems in a
relationship is the result of misunderstanding and lack of communication. Therefore, if you want to fix
complications in a relationship then you must strive to open up communication channels between you and your
significant other. Doing so is not that hard. One of things that you can do to improve you relationship is to make
time for each other. Recognise that communication has broken down, that the relationship is important to you, but
that you must take time out to be together and talk on a regular basis. Rediscover each other. Then be prepared to
do some listening, rather than shift all the blame onto your partner. Allow each of you to present both your
feelings in a non judgemental way, discuss them together work through them and try to resolve them.
If you are in a toxic relationship, and are serious about sorting it out, then TW Jackson's
"Magic of Making Up" is for you. In it, Jackson takes you step by step through strategies (not just ideas),
for healing your toxic relationship. However, you must decide that the relationship is worth saving and
then TAKE ACTION! Most people let life run their lives, rather than take control themselves. The easy way is
not the best way, and generally leaves you with nothing. Do you want to improve your relationship - rediscover
those things that got you two together in the first place? Then go ahead.....
